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Genuine Concern: Domestic Violence Victims

Genuine Concern: Domestic Violence Victims

This summer I’ve been fortunate enough to land a job at a crisis center/domestic violence shelter. With me being in school for Clinical Mental Health Counseling it’s been great. I’ve been able to gain experience working with victims of domestic violence, conducting intake interviews, answering crisis calls, making referrals to other community resources, etc. Of course, my passion lies within the helping profession; I love to help people. But huuuunty, let me tell you… I’m lowkey fed up!

~ Before I get into it, I know that men are victims of different forms of abuse as well, but my experience has mainly been with women, so that is what I am speaking on.~

As promised, this is a continuation of my Facebook post. So let’s get right into it!

I’m tired of seeing women (young and old) being 100% dependent on their significant other, and as a result they are homeless, jobless, “moneyless”, “transportationless”, “familyless”, and “friendless” when something (such as domestic violence) goes down. AGAIN, Sis, what is yours? What have you worked for? Where are your family and friends? What is you doing? 

I AM NOT BASHING YOU! I am simply stating what I see and am expressing genuine concern. Though not a primary victim, I myself have been affected by domestic violence.

I am sorry that you’ve had to experience what you’ve gone through. No matter the severity of the situation, no one has the right to abuse you in any way, shape, or form. I understand that not everyone has it easy. I understand that sometimes there is no family because bridges have been burned. I understand that not everyone can afford to go to school. I understand that sometimes, there are no friends. But this in itself is an issue of its own. Some things to think about is why don’t you have friends? Is it them, or is it you? I challenge you to dig deep and look within! I can’t stress enough how important it is to have healthy and genuine friendships and relationships with others. 

I need y’all to help me to understand where the issue lies!

At this point I don’t even know what to say next. I have so many questions such as: 

  • Can you find a job? 

  • Any job? 

  • Are you being picky about jobs? (Chile’ I’m not telling you to settle, but sometimes you gotta take what you can get before you move up the ladder. Ya feel me? Like, crawl before you walk)

    • Maybe they have children, and have no babysitter (Childcare costs an arm and leg nowadays)

  • Have you utilized your resources within the community? 

    • Maybe help is needed in this area

    • Do they know who to contact or reach out to for help?

  • Is public transportation available if you don’t have a car? 

    • Maybe they don’t have the coins for public transportation

    • Maybe they don’t know how to use public transportation

    • Maybe where they’re located, there is no public transportation

  • Can they rebuild or reconnect with family/friends? 

    • What if they aren’t living? 

    • Are they in a different state? 

  • Have they been incarcerated? 

    • Maybe they can’t find work because no one will hire them due to their background. 

I honestly don’t know! I’d love to hear others’ opinions and viewpoints on this topic!

To all of those in this predicament, understand that you are not alone. Below I will include information and resources that can be used.

As always, 

Love, Amber

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